- Recently, a woman “ring-shamed” herself on Facebook.
- The woman found the ring her boyfriend plans to propose with in his nightstand – and she was not pleased.
- Ring-shaming is when you criticise a person’s wedding or engagement ring.
- The Facebook post has gone viral, especially on Reddit.
- It’s just another part of the materialistic wedding culture that has taken hold of deepest recesses of the internet.
Weddings can really bring out all sides in people. And if you’re new here (hello!), let me introduce you to the relatively new concept of “ring-shaming,” which is exactly what it sounds like.
There are scores of Facebook groups devoted to the phenomenon of criticising strangers’ wedding or engagement rings.
One woman, however, took the trend to the next level by ring-shaming herself in a now-viral Facebook post. The post was also shared on several subreddits, where people were floored.
The original poster found the ring her boyfriend planned to propose with in his nightstand – and she was not pleased.
“Found this in the BF’s nightstand. Not a fan,” she wrote in her Facebook post. “Please roast and then tell me how to tactfully say no you need to go get something different.”
The woman’s name and the Facebook group have been redacted, but it seems that it’s part of the group’s custom to post your own ring on Fridays for a healthy dose of self-deprecation.
This particular screenshot was posted to the subreddit r/Choosingbeggars and r/Nicegirls over the weekend, where people had a lot of thoughts.
Many think the potential bride-to-be crossed a line.
“I hope the guy sees this and breaks up. Seriously if that’s the type of person she is nobody should marry her until she fixes her attitude,” one person wrote.
“What is it with engagement rings anyway? They’re not going to be worn for a very long time, they are replaced by yet another expensive ring, and some messed up guides claim you should pay around a month’s income on one. Money that could be invested in a bigger, better wedding, or a couple vacation, or a savings account for the couple’s future kids,” another commenter wrote.
“This lady deserves to get shamed not the ring,” one user joked.
But some people said they understood where the poster was coming from.
“I think she’s justifiably asking for advice. ‘How do I tactfully say no, you need to go and get something different?’ And the answer is for her to say ‘Hey hun, you should go and get some different girlfriend,'” one person on the Choosing Beggars subreddit said.
Several people said ring-shaming groups promote an unhealthy culture.
“Groups like this are just 100000% bad news,” a commenter wrote. “Someone posts a ring that’s really nice and clearly worth a lot saying, ‘lol look what my boyfriend got me he’s so cheap’ and then everyone adopts that mentality and it just becomes a nasty pit of narcissism and hatred.”
“You could literally give me an onion ring and I would marry your a– if I was truly in love with you. What’s wrong with some entitled people?” another person wrote.
And although ring-shaming might be new to the uninitiated, this isn’t the first wedding story to cause a controversy online.
In October, there was the wedding photographer who was criticised for shoving the bride’s stepmother in order to get a photo. And earlier this year, people were confused by a wedding planner’s bizarre list of “rules and regulations,” aghast when a bride didn’t understand why her African American friend didn’t want to attend her wedding at a plantation, and thoroughly upset by the bride who pranked a bridesmaid by asking her to wear a $US188 yellow “monstrosity.”
True love. It’s so pure. So good.
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