Wealthy families turn to 'transformative mediation' to decide who gets the summer home

Hamptons beach houseTana Lee Alves/Shutterstock.comIt’s a method popularised by the US Postal Service.

When you think of a summer home, you probably think of sandy hallways, shady porches, and bitter battles over who inherits the place when Grandma and Grandpa are dead.


In The New York Times, Paul Sullivan writes that wealthy families who once turned to their lawyers over matters of inheritance are now pursuing a different method of conflict resolution: transformative mediation.

He describes transformative mediation as “an ambitious but often lengthy process with a single goal: to get the people involved to think differently.”

Sullivan, who is also the author of “The Thin Green Line: Money Secrets of the Super Wealthy,” continues: “If siblings are successful in changing their thoughts about each other, practitioners say, the present conflict will be resolved and the relationships that the siblings have with each other will be altered.”

Interestingly, squabbles over summer homes run counter to another trend profiled in the Times: grown children’s resistance to inheriting their parents’ stuff, to the point that Goodwill is “overrun” with donations and ageing parents are paying thousands for help downsizing.

Apparently, four bedrooms on Nantucket doesn’t count as “stuff.”

But before wealthy families started using transformative mediation to change their minds about each other and the beach access up for grabs, Sullivan points out, the US Postal Service incorporated it as an “accepted method of conflict resolution.”

This started in 1994. Robert A. Baruch Bush, a law professor at Hofstra University, and Joseph P. Folger, a communications professor at Temple University, helped the USPS develop a program to “solve underlying conflicts between workers so that they could return to their jobs and work together,” Sullivan writes.

While staying out of court is probably a good thing for families at odds, the transformative mediation process can be long and expensive, writes Sullivan — and in that way, at least, perhaps not all that different from the legal channels families might have pursued in the past.

Read the full article at The New York Times »

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