YouTube star Trisha Paytas comes out as gender fluid and says they were ‘scared’ announce ‘he/him’ pronouns

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Paytas announced that they were gender fluid in a series of Tweets on July 18. Trisha Paytas/Instagram
  • YouTuber Trisha Paytas came out as gender fluid in a series of tweets on July 18.
  • They explained that they use he/him pronouns in their personal life, but was ‘scared’ to do so online.
  • In 2019, Paytas sparked debate saying they were a transgender man, but later came out as non-binary.
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YouTuber Trisha Paytas came out as gender fluid and said that they sometimes use “he/him” pronouns in a series of tweets on July 18.

Paytas clarified in a tweet that to them, gender fluidity refers to moving between two or more gender identities, and added that for them, it comes under the non-binary umbrella. Stonewall categorizes both non-binary and gender-fluid identities as being within the umbrella term “trans,” which describes people whose gender is not the same as, or does not sit comfortably with, the sex they were assigned at birth.

Paytas said on Twitter: “Only those closest to me can recognize my days where I go by other pronouns, and they do respect that. I know it’s confusing for a lot of ppl, which is why I like to speak on it (even if it gets repetitive).”

The controversial online personality, who has been creating YouTube content since 2007, explained on Twitter that they use he/him pronouns often in their personal life but has been afraid to put them in their bio because of judgment. Paytas was widely criticized in 2019, with transgender creators such as Nikita Dragun accusing them of being transphobic after they released a now-deleted YouTube video announcing they were a transgender man.

Paytas later spoke about the conflict in a YouTube video in April, during which they came out as non-binary. Saying their interaction with Dragun “triggered” them, Paytas added: “It came across as bad and wrong and I didn’t know ‘non-binary’ back then. I really just thought, ‘I’m really a male.'”

Since the release of the YouTube video on April 10, which is entitled “re: my gender,” Paytas has primarily been going by “they/them” pronouns. In their coming-out tweets posted yesterday, they said that they will be continuing to use these pronouns because “it’s a respectful term at any given time for myself.”

They continued on Twitter: “My hope is for my children and their generation to not have gender labels until they can decide who they are. It would make things more balanced, fair, and give our future humans respect and space to figure themselves out in a safe environment.”

Paytas has recently been involved in a high-profile feud with former “Frenemies” podcast co-host Ethan Klien, of H3H3 Productions. Paytas announced that they were quitting the podcast, which had aired every Tuesday for the previous nine months, on June 8 over financial disputes. Paytas is currently engaged to Moses Hacmon, who is the brother of Ethan’s wife Hila Klein.

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