Teachers share 19 things they'd love to tell their students but can't

To maintain order in the classroom — and to keep their jobs — there are some things teachers just can’t tell their students, even if they want to.

But some of these things, while perhaps controversial, could end up being a service to young people, if only someone would just tell them.

So we asked teachers everywhere to weigh in on the one thing they’d love to tell their students but can’t, and more than 50 teachers shared their insights.

We’ve (anonymously) included some of the most constructive thoughts here:

Really, all this stuff you learn is probably not that important

What is important is the life skills you learn while completing the tasks in class.

You learn how to argue effectively and communicate with different types of people. You learn how to listen to others and respond respectfully. You learn so much that you don't even realise because it seems disguised by homework and essays. But really, you are learning to be independent adults more than you know.

Don't waste this opportunity

Please just know that I love teaching and I sincerely want to help you. But I can't help you if you don't put in the effort. I chose this job because I'm passionate and hardworking and I know my s--t, and I will help you get to where you need to be. But you need to meet me halfway.

You may not realise how important it is to do well in school. You grew up in a tiny apartment in a horrible neighbourhood, your parents aren't educated, you're working 18 hour-days, and your neighbours are selling drugs -- and maybe you think this is all normal, but it's not, and you have a chance to get out of this.

But you're not taking that chance. And I don't know what you think your life is going to be like if you don't graduate high school and go to college, but you're not going to get out of the South Bronx -- you'll be surrounded in this unsafe, crime-ridden neighbourhood, it will be the same thing with your own kids.

It's so frustrating because education opens so many doors, and people around the world would kill to have this educational opportunity. Malala was shot in the freaking head for it. And you're just throwing it all away, and that makes me want to tear my hair out.

The world can be very harsh

You are more than what others judge you to be.

Adults don't always know best

Sometimes I wish I could tell you when your parents are wrong.

You are not your test scores

All the standardised testing we do is so insignificant to who you will become.

I don't like standardised tests either

They stress me out too!

Don't be afraid to fail

I am here to help you succeed.

I love you lots ...

But I may not like you at this very moment that you're choosing to act out.

We're not that different

I'm just as nervous as you are at the beginning of school.

Don't sweat the small stuff

Your elementary years won't have a tremendous impact on your academic, professional, or personal paths. I wish you could just enjoy these years of your lives. Have fun -- you're kids!

Be kind

You'll regret not being nicer to people that you had the chance to.

There are only so many spots at Harvard

Not all of you are going to an Ivy League school after you graduate.

Tests aren't everything

Knowing the answers to a test does not make you smart.

Learning won't always be fun

I know some of the things I have to teach and you have to learn are boring.

I'm also addicted to my smartphone

I have to fight my impulse to check Facebook every day.

I respect you and wish you the best

I know that you are an individual with your own perspective and problems even though you're only a teen.

If you don't work hard, you aren't going to get any better

Parents and students often come to school thinking that it is the teacher's job to help you get smart -- you are right. I can only help. Actual learning can only happen by the student himself.

I hate homework, too

It becomes more work for us to do during the weekends and holidays.

Learning is a life-long process

It doesn't just live in a school.

Responses have been edited slightly for clarity.

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