- A professional “undercover bridesmaid” has admitted some of the extreme tasks brides have asked her to do.
- Tiffany Wright is paid up to £5,000 ($US6,500) to pretend to be a bridesmaid and help things run smoothly both in the run-up and on the big day.
- One bride asked her to stalk her groom on his bachelor party in Ibiza to check he stayed loyal to her.
- Another insisted she draw up legal contracts for the bridesmaids to sign saying they wouldn’t get pregnant or gain weight before the wedding.
- Wright explained what her job is really like to INSIDER.
Organising a wedding is stressful.
Sure, you can hire a wedding planner to help with booking a venue, caterer, and band, but what about the stresses of dealing with squabbling bridesmaids, getting last-minute cold feet, and ensuring the bachelorette party goes off without a hitch?
Enter: “The Undercover Bridesmaid,” 36-year-old Tiffany Wright.
Wright’s unconventional profession sees her being employed by brides as an official bridesmaid, and it’s often kept secret that she’s hired help and not an old friend.
“You have to come up with a back story,” Wright told INSIDER. “If I’m suddenly pretending to be a bridesmaid that has known the bride for years, I have to know as much as I can about that bride. I need to know who their first kiss was, where they went on their first girly holiday, everything.
“And then I have to convince the other bridesmaids that I’ve known her for as many years as they have. It’s obviously tricky because the bridesmaids are always like ‘I’ve never heard of you before,’ so usually I say we met on a gap year or a holiday and we lost touch and then got back in touch via social media.”
How much Wright charges depends entirely on what a bride demands.
While a one-off Skype consultation can cost £25 ($US32), this can go up to £5,000 ($US6,500) for a bride who is tying the knot abroad and has to cover flights, accommodation, and a dress on top of the cost of Wright’s usual services.
There’s no such thing as ‘too much to ask’
Wright, from Chipping Norton, Oxfordshire, UK, has been given her fair share of outlandish tasks.
One of her most memorable jobs was stalking a groom on his bachelor party in Ibiza to make sure he didn’t put a foot out of line.
The bride knew exactly where the group would be going, so Wright had an itinerary to follow – she took the same flights, stayed in the same hotel, and went to all the same bars as the groom and his friends, but had to make sure she kept her distance so they wouldn’t notice her.
“It looked like it was going to be horrific,” Wright said. “They all turned up at the airport in stag do tshirts, all drinking at 7 a.m.”
However, Wright says the groom was in fact “impeccably behaved,” which she duly reported back to the bride.
Wright nearly didn’t go on the trip though, as she could see that the relationship between the two betrothed parties didn’t have the level of trust that it should.
“I didn’t think it was a good idea because what happens if the bride has to face hard truths, was she prepared for that?” Wright said.
“And if he did behave himself, was she prepared to accept the fact that maybe she was being a bit extreme? But she was adamant so I agreed to give it a go.”
However, despite the fact that Wright witnessed the groom being entirely faithful to his fiancée, the bride didn’t want to believe it and was still very suspicious. The pair ultimately called off the wedding.
“I don’t know if I was a help or a hindrance really,” Wright said. “I like to think I made her realise the relationship wasn’t quite right, but he didn’t do anything wrong.”
Extreme demands aren’t unusual
Stalking grooms isn’t the only far-fetched job Wright has been given by a client – she also gets a lot of demands related to how the bridesmaids will look on the big day.
One bride requested Wright draw up contracts with a lawyer for her bridesmaids to sign agreeing that they wouldn’t gain weight or get pregnant before the wedding.
Similarly, another woman wanted her bridesmaids to go on a weight loss bootcamp disguised as a bachelorette party, and she wanted Wright to tell them it was her idea.
A current bride-to-be even asked Wright to dye her blonde hair brown to match all the other brunette bridesmaids – and Wright agreed on the condition that the bride pay for her hair to be highlighted back afterwards.
The idea came from Wright’s own wedding day
As one of the first in her friendship group to get married, none of Wright’s bridesmaids had any experience of organising weddings and bachelorette parties.
“At my wedding there were various things that were stressing me out but I didn’t feel like I wanted to ask any of my bridesmaids to go and run around sorting things out because I really wanted them to be with me enjoying the day,” Wright explained.
“The wedding planner that I had was busy doing things like making sure there were enough chairs around tables etc. so I didn’t feel like there was anyone I could turn to just to handle those silly bride stresses.”
Wright realised she could have benefited from a professional bridesmaid, and after attending 17 weddings in two years, she realised she wasn’t the only one.
She already ran (and still runs) a proposal-planning company,The One Romance, and many of her clients started asking if she would help with their weddings too.
Wright never actually set out to go undercover at weddings, but brides started demanding it. Now, she’s gone undercover for seven weddings and has another eight booked in.
She’s hired by two types of brides
Wright says there are two very different types of women who tend to hire her:
The first is the stereotypical “bridezilla.” These are brides “who are stressing about everything and their wedding has to be the best wedding ever,” Wright said, adding that these are usually women who are extemely concerned with how their wedding appears on social media and about making sure their photos have the right filters and a good hashtag.
On the other side of the spectrum is the “bridechilla.” These women tend to contact Wright a couple of months before their wedding saying they haven’t organised a thing.
On the whole, Wright says Instagram has increased the stress a bride experiences.
“Nowadays I think so many brides, especially with social media and people wanting to upload photos to Instagram and have this absolutely perfect wedding, there are so many more stresses and it can get really emotional,” she said.
When it comes to the wedding day itself, while some brides don’t keep Wright’s identity a secret, some do – and she enjoys it.
“I do enjoy [these undercover tasks],” Wright said. “They feel slightly surreal.
“There’s an adrenaline buzz. It always feels great at the end when you’ve gone undercover as a bridesmaid because you can really troubleshoot all the problems throughout the wedding day and see that the bride is relaxing. You get real job satisfaction.
“To me, your wedding is the one day of your life which should really be the happiest, least stressful day,” Wright says. And she’s there, undercover, to help make that happen.
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