- Kal Penn announced that he is engaged to his boyfriend of 11 years, Josh, on Sunday.
- In an interview with People, Penn said he wants a “big-ass Indian wedding,” but Josh doesn’t.
- Penn writes about his and Josh’s love story in his book, “You Can’t Be Serious.”
Kal Penn hopes to have a big wedding.
The actor and former Obama staffer announced he is engaged to his partner, Josh, of 11 years in his new book, “You Can’t Be Serious.” Penn had yet to share Josh’s last name at the time of writing.
Penn met Josh while he was working as the associate director for the Office of Public Engagement during the Obama administration, as he shared in an interview with People.
The book shares insight into the couple’s love story, including what happened on their first date.
Penn told People that the couple are now in the midst of wedding planning – though they have different ideas of what they want that wedding to look like.
“The big disagreement now is whether it’s a huge wedding or a tiny wedding,” Penn told People. “I want the big-ass Indian wedding.”
“Josh hates attention and [has said], ‘Or, we could just do a quick 20-minute thing with our families and that’s it,'” Penn went on to say in his interview with People. “So we have to meet halfway in the middle.”
In the same interview with People, Penn said he was looking forward to sharing more about Josh and his immediate family with the public, but he wanted to be respectful of his loved ones’ privacy.
“I’m really excited to share our relationship with readers,” Penn said to People. “But Josh, my partner, my parents, and my brother, four people who I’m closest to in the family, are fairly quiet. They don’t love attention and shy away from the limelight.”
But Penn also said he’s been open about his relationship in his day-to-day life.
“I’ve always been very public with everybody I’ve personally interacted with,” he told People. “Whether it’s somebody that I meet at a bar, if Josh and I are out or we’re talking to friends.”
The actor told People that his family is supportive of his relationship with Josh as well.
“I shared things with my parents and close friends first,” he told People. “I know this sounds jokey, but it’s true: When you’ve already told your Indian parents and the South Asian community that you intend to be an actor for a living, really any conversations that come after that are super easy.”
“I felt very supported by everyone,” he added. “That’s a wonderful thing. I know everybody has different experiences with that and so I definitely feel very fortunate.”