Don’t get it twisted. Social media is awesome. It’s especially useful in the often tedious wedding-planning process. Social media apps provide a treasure trove of inspiration to couples hoping to make one of the biggest moments in their lives unforgettable. Unfortunately, for every great idea shared in cyberspace, there are a few that have reached oversaturation.
Of course, your wedding should be about what makes you happy – but to help you out, INSIDER gathered intel from wedding planners and experts across the country and beyond to find out which trends they wouldn’t mind seeing disappear forever.
Photo booths have worn out their welcome.
To be clear, photo booths aren’t a terrible idea – if you’re going for that prom-prop feel. It was an idea that started off as cute but is now entering kitsch territory, according to experts. Noelissa St. Catherine, owner of event design and coordination company Designed by Nelle, has seen her clients gravitate toward more candid shots.
“You don’t want to tell a bride or groom who likes the idea of a photo booth that it’s not trendy so you don’t want to do this,” she told INSIDER. “But I would say most of my brides are moving away from it simply because they are really trying to personalise their wedding. They want to be able to take photos as part of the function rather than just having a designated place. I think [photo booths] are better as part of a mass crowd event.”
Again, if that’s the intended vibe, then have at it. But if not, consider a portrait booth.
Favours should at least be practical.
It’s hard to pick one trinket that everyone will love as a keepsake from your special day. But we’re going to go out on a limb here and say that a bell probably isn’t it. Experts recommend giving something that’s a reflection of your personality and would let your nearest and dearest know some real thought was put into it.
St. Catherine weighed in. “If you’re not a beach person, I don’t expect you to be giving away bottles of sand at your wedding. It doesn’t say anything about you and seems like a generic offering.”
If you have an open bar, a hangover kit with some snacks might come in clutch.
Over-signage is a real thing.
Signs can be very helpful at weddings, but when they’re overdone they come off as a massive do-it-yourself project. Even worse are the ones that are hard to read thanks to a poorly chosen font. Strategically placed staff at the venue can give directions when necessary, so you can afford to use the crafty additions sparingly, experts said.
Gabriella Risatti, owner of Gabriella New York, said: “A well-done sign can be cute and memorable – we still have the large welcome sign from our wedding in our house; it always makes me smile. However, having too many signs or signs that look a little too DIY is never a good thing. Give your guests some credit – they can definitely figure out where the wedding is and where they are supposed to be! A bunch of homemade signs is just going to detract from the main event.”
For expert Martha Stewart, long engagements are out.
Many people opt to take their time planning a wedding after getting engaged. Wedding and lifestyle maven Martha Stewart said a long lead-up to the wedding is something that couples should avoid.
“The three-year engagement, I think, is becoming passé. I personally hate anything longer than six-months engagements.” Stewart said, according to Marie Claire. “Once engaged, speed it up.”
Let the photos tell the real story.
Maybe it’s the social-media culture of documenting everything from breakfast to your Bikram yoga session that’s inspired this particular trend.
Couples are opting to have every minuscule detail of their wedding photographed – a dress hanging in the doorway, shoes over in the corner of the room, drunken guests parting into the wee hours of the morning – and experts aren’t sold.
These are all great memories but can take away from the real meat of the matter. Would you rather look back at candles on a table or great impromptu photos with family and friends? Allow your photographer to capture authentic and memorable moments.
Make your wedding your own.
Many of us woke up at ungodly hours to watch the fairytale that was Meghan Markle’s marriage to Prince Harry. People did the same for Princess Diana and Prince Charles in the early ’80s. The Kardashians alone have provided enough wedding specials to last us until the next millennium.
The point is, we love us a glossy celebrity wedding. And although it’s understandable to be loosely inspired by elements of these star-studded affairs, recreating the entire look is something experts don’t recommend. Chances are, your guests have also seen these high profile I-dos. Your wedding should be unique to your relationship and personal style – not a carbon copy of someone else’s.
Charlotte Cooper, an event planner and owner of By Charlie, is a firm believer in keeping your day you-centric.
“Guests should walk in a wedding and say, ‘Wow, this is so X and X.’ The personal touches make a much bigger impact than the template trends that everyone is doing at that time.”
Save the flower crowns for Coachella.
At first glance, flower crowns are cute accessories. But now that they have become so commonplace, they’re starting to seem more like you’re going to a musical festival than walking down the aisle, according to experts.
Julie Sabatino, founder of The Stylish Bride, a wedding-fashion styling company with locations in New York, Boston, Chicago, and Dallas, is not opposed to flower crowns. But the setting matters.
“I really feel like it should be what the bride’s personal style is and not dictated by should and shouldn’ts,” Sabatino said. “But you have to look at the venue and take that into account when you’re deciding these things. Flower crowns are a little bit more bohemian and casual, so if your wedding is like that, then go for it.”
However, if you’re looking to add some flower power sans crown, another option would be to have the buds woven into an effortless ‘do.
Dance entrances must die.
Ever since Jill Peterson and Kevin Heinz danced down the aisle to Chris Brown’s “Forever” in 2009, dance entrances have become a thing. The Minnesota couple’s dance went viral thanks to the creative concept, which was fun and fresh. It even spawned that memorable episode of “The Office” in which Jim and Pam get in on the action at their own wedding. Almost a decade later, we have seen innumerable reincarnations – and now experts say it’s time to put the trend to bed. Forever.
“Let it go!” Risatti implored. “It was awesome in the beginning, but brides and grooms need to move on to another trend to get their guests’ attention and let the dance entrances go. You never want to be the couple doing something that was new nine years ago. Be creative and focus on fun at your wedding. You won’t be disappointed.”
Personalised drinks can be overkill.
Although you may be tempted to serve up your favourite drinks with a cute name, experts said they’re not really into the idea anymore.
“Please, no one serve another ‘Dantini’ or a ‘Jennyrita.’ Do serve delicious, artisanal, fresh drinks that are seasonal and inspired, but please stop the witty banter via bar menus, I ‘thankyoutini’ in advance,” Yifat Oren, a Los Angeles- and New York City-based event producer, told Vogue.
Some themes are way too popular.
“A wedding day should be highly personal and designed custom for each and every couple. They should be able to have any theme or colour scheme they like without feeling like it’s not ‘in,’ and a good designer and coordinator will make it work within their budget and venue. A wedding should reflect who the couple are, what they love and what makes them them.”
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