As is the case with most personality traits, some people are naturally more charismatic than others. (Think Oprah Winfrey or Bill Clinton.)
But contrary to popular belief, anyone can become more charismatic over time.
In fact, Ronald Riggio, a professor at Claremont McKenna College who’s spent years researching the development of this mysterious quality, has found that there are many people with untapped “charisma potential.” Riggio described experiments in which researchers have successfully trained people on specific social and emotional skills that contribute to charisma.
We spoke to Riggio about some of those skills and checked out other scientific research on strategies for developing charisma. Below, we’ve rounded up seven easy ways to become more charismatic.
Additional reporting by Drake Baer.
2. Listen actively to what people are saying.
'Active listening' is another key skill related to charisma.
On Psychology Today, Riggio describes it as 'focusing in on what the other person is saying and reflecting back what you are hearing, rather than focusing on what you want to say.'
5. Ask rhetorical questions.
'Rhetorical questions might seem hackneyed,' the researchers write in The Harvard Business Review, 'but charismatic leaders use them all the time to encourage engagement.'
Whether you're speaking to a large audience or a single individual, this strategy can be useful. One manager in the study motivated an underperforming employee by asking, 'So, where do you want to go from here? Will it be back to your office feeling sorry for yourself? Or do you want to show what you are capable of achieving?'
6. Set high goals, and express confidence that you can achieve them.
When leaders set the bar high and genuinely think their team can hit it, Antonakis and colleagues say they both show and inspire passion.
They cite the example of an engineer whose team was given a deadline that would be hard to meet. The engineer told the team, 'I know you can rise to the challenge. I believe in each one of you.'
7. Use words that people can relate to.
In his book 'Why Presidents Succeed,' University of California at Davis psychologist Dean Keith Simonton argues that the most effective communicators use concrete -- rather than abstract -- language.
''I feel your pain' has association,' he tells the APA Monitor, 'but 'I can relate to your viewpoint' doesn't. The most charismatic presidents reached an emotional connection with people talking not to their brains but to their gut.'
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