It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.
It’s an old cliché, but it’s true. That’s why body language is such a crucial part of communicating. The way you act can warp the entire meaning of what you’re saying.
That being said, bad body language habits are the often hardest ones to break. We become so accustomed to slouching, averting our eyes, or folding our arms that we barely even notice what we’re doing.
Here are several body language mistakes that are going to be tough to ditch. Still, if you’re able to quit them, you’ll definitely thank yourself later.
If you've gotten into the habit of fidgeting, it can be difficult to snap out of it. However, it's important to take steps to reigning in this nervous habit.
Playing with your hair
Leave your hair alone. Constantly running your hands across your scalp and twirling your locks is pretty distracting. Plus, as ABC reported, it can damage your hair overtime. It can
be hard to quit, so try playing around a stress ball instead of your hair.
Adopting a defensive pose
Many people naturally cross their arms or hunch over a bit just because they don't know what to do with their hands.
However, this posture can make you look uncomfortable, defensive, or untrustworthy.
'You should always keep your hands in view when you are talking,' Patti Wood, a body language expert and author of ' SNAP: Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma,' previously told Business Insider. When a listener can't see your hands, they wonder what you are hiding.'
Shuffling instead of walking
Humans are pretty judgmental creatures. We think we can tell a lot about someone based on snap judgments over something as simple as their manner of walking.
As BBC reported, how we walk can actually determine our risk of being mugged.
It can be hard to change up your walk once you've fallen into bad habits, but it's important
to walk with confidence and coordination. Don't shuffle through life.
Forgetting to smile
Reiman previously told Business Insider that smiling demonstrates confidence, openness, warmth, and energy.
'It also sets off the mirror neurons in your listener, instructing them to smile back. Without the smile, an individual is often seen as grim or aloof,' she explained.
There's nothing more irritating than talking to someone who's clearly not paying attention
Some people are just naturally distracted or busy, so it can be tempting to check your phone
or watch at every available moment. Still, you've got to keep this impulse in check when you're around others. Otherwise, you'll just come across as a rude and uncaring person.
Stand up straight. Terrible posture is easy to develop, especially if you're slouched over a desk for the majority of the day.
Slouching doesn't just make you look un-confident, writes Catherine New for Psychology Today, it's also bad for your back. Improve your health and the image you present to the world by standing up straight.
Nonexistent or aggressive eye contact
Here's another body language pitfall where moderation is key.
'What Your Body Says (And How to Master the Message)' author Sharon Sayler previously told Business Insider that the ideal amount of eye contact should be 'a series of long glances instead of intense stares.'
Overly long stares can make whoever you're talking to pretty uncomfortable. On the other hand, averting your eyes indicates disgust or a lack of confidence.
Mismatching verbal and non-verbal communication
You might be saying all the right things -- but if your body language doesn't match up with your words, you might end up rubbing people the wrong way.
In fact, researchers at Sacred Heart University devoted an entire study to this phenomenon. Their subjects were married couples, but their finding was pretty universal -- when verbal and non-verbal messages do not align, 'nonverbal signals carry the brunt of the emotional message.'
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