Online dating can be murky stuff.You think you’re setting up a date with a recent Columbia grad who just accepted a position at DE Shaw and the next thing you know, you’re sitting across a 43 year-old bartender who lives in Queens with his mum.
She will help you find that 43 year-old, and send him back to mummy where he belongs. Coder used to be a crime reporter — enough said. On her site, she has compiled resources for those looking to do the necessary dirty work (from the NYO):
“It can be a lot of fun, but it does come with certain dangers too,” Ms. Coder told Betabeat yesterday by phone, on a furtive break from her day job as a publicist. “I started to get concerned about myself dating Joe Shmoe off the Internet and not knowing what could happen to me or my friends.”
And those Joe Shmoe’s — the ones pretending to be someone — tend to pretend to be veterans (who doesn’t love a soldier) and investment bankers. For the soldiers, she suggests doing a quick background check with StolenValor.com, Archives.gov. For the bankers, use the FINRA broker database, BrokerCheck.