Parents are taking on the financial burden of their children more often than they should.
But that might be doing them more harm than good.
“It’s important to not always have mum and dad come in and save the day because if you save the day, the lesson they learn is that mum and dad will be there to bail you out,” Brie Williams told Business Insider.
Williams is the vice president and head of practice management at of State Street Global Advisors (SSGA).
She suggests letting children make healthy financial mistakes instead.
It could be letting them face the consequences of missing a mobile phone bill payment or not budgeting for what they need rather than spoiling them. She outlines some more scenarios in her blog post on SSGA.
“Making small mistakes while they’re still in a protected, secure environment at home — something that’s as small as a phone bill — are easier lessons to learn in a safer environment,” Williams said.
In addition to raising them to be financially educated, it’s also important to keep the topic of money open.
According to “Supporting Investor Comprehension for a Productive Relationship: Developing Financial Knowledge,” a study from SSGA, only 4% of families have meetings to discuss wealth matters and 45% of families say wealth is not openly discussed.
But, according to Williams, feedback from the survey shows that parents are ready and want to empower themselves as well as their children. In fact, 65% or parents want their advisor to engage children directly about finances and 62% want more information from their adviser about financially educating their children.
“Practicing responsible spending, saving, and conversations, and keeping money a little of an open conversation at home can continue to reinforce prudent stewards of wealth,” she said.
Ultimately, letting your children make money mistakes might be hard, but it will help them build financial responsibility along the way.
“It’s hard for parents to allow a child to make even a small mistake because we want to help them, but it’s about really understanding this as an opportunity to learn a basic skill and teach them what they might do differently in a protected environment because both those good and bad money experiences will shape and help them be better,” said Williams.