Some restaurant etiquette is just common sense: Don’t speak when your mouth is full, don’t tell rude jokes during the meal, and always cover your mouth when you cough.
Others can be a bit more nuanced. Who pays after a business meal? Where do you put your napkin when you stand? And how exactly does one order the perfect bottle of wine?
Patricia Napier-Fitzpatrick of The Etiquette School of New York and author of “The Art of the Meal: Simple Etiquette for Simply Everyone” shared some guidelines for dining at expensive restaurants.
'The host, especially if it's a woman, has to make it clear that he or she is the host,' Napier-Fitzpatrick told us.
'Say phrases like, 'Will you please bring my guest...' or 'My guest would like to order first' to ward off confusion.'
'The protocol is you have to keep it even if you don't like it because they opened the bottle for you,' Napier-Fitzpatrick said.
'However, if it really is awful, you don't have to keep it. Politely explain the problem to your waiter.'
'I don't recommend sharing if you're with someone you don't know very well, or if you're at a formal business meal,' she warned.
'If you're with someone you know better, pass them your bread plate with a little sample of food on it.'
'If you are with other people and you have to send your food back, it's your responsibility to tell everyone to go ahead and start without you,' Napier-Fitzpatrick said.
'And if I'm the host, I suffer and eat my meal even if it's not cooked the way I want rather than have everybody have to wait for me or feel bad.'
This avoids awkwardness and allows you to pace yourself with the other person.
Make sure to take your time eating and pause after every few bites -- especially if you're the host, since you don't want to make your guest feel rushed during the meal.
'We call it a silent service code for the wait staff,' Napier-Fitzpatrick said. 'When you're finished, place the knife and fork together at the 10:20 position on the plate.'
'Place the fork up because in the American style you eat with the tines up.'
'Business should not be discussed until the meal has been cleared away,' Napier-Fitzpatrick warned.
'Also, generally avoid complaining about business colleagues and work during the meal.'
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