- A Facebook post comparing the lives of working mothers to those who stay at home has gone viral.
- Thousands of people have commented on it saying it shames working mothers.
- The author of the post said this wasn’t her intention.
- “The majority of women can’t do it all,” the author wrote in a blog post.
A Facebook page called ‘The Transformed Wife‘ recently shared a flowchart supposedly comparing the lives of stay-at-home mums and those who have careers. It hasn’t gone down well.
The post, shared a week ago, has two lines: one following women who are away from home for many hours, and women who are at home all the time. The contrast, the author believes, is stark.
While stay at home mums make “nutritious and delicious” dinners, play games with their children, and are frequently intimate with their husbands, mothers with careers bring home fast food, have weekends full of chores, and never have sex.
Needless to say, people have taken issue with these conclusions.
“I have been a stay-at-home and work-from-home mum for the last 16 + years,” wrote one commenter. “This chart is one of the dumbest things I’ve ever seen in my life.”
Another asked: “How does this perfect mother who stays home find time to nap AND play games while cooking dinner?! She then slips into some lingerie to make passionate mid-week love to her husband whilst planning dreamy weekend trips to the beach parks!?!”
She added: “I’ll just keep living in the real world. It’s nice here.”
A father also chimed in.
“My wife works full-time and is the greatest mother my son could ask for,” he said. “You have a jaded view on the world and need to keep your obnoxious opinions to yourself.”
The post has been shared about 1,700 times so far, and has two and a half thousand comments, many of which are full of criticism.
The owner of the page, Lori Alexander, has since written about her flowchart going viral in a blog. She said it wasn’t her intention to shame working mothers, but to “teach young women what God has commanded I teach them.”
“The majority of women can’t do it all. I sure couldn’t,” Alexander wrote. “I was a career woman for the first two years of my first daughter’s life and all those things stated on the left side of this flow chart were true for me. I would come home each day and collapse on the couch from exhaustion. I had little to no energy to give to my daughter nor my husband.”
One reader responded: “Whatever your intent, you make women feel ashamed for having careers on a regular basis.”
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