How 9 Things That Happened To You As A Child Affect You As An Adult

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Ever wonder why some adults are serious while others can’t stop acting like five-year-olds?It could be the result of a childhood which means that adulthood is only an extension of your experiences as a child.

If you’re extremely sneaky or suffer from obesity, it’s probably an issue you can trace back to your younger days.

It might be frightening to uncover where all your behavioural traits come from, but we’ve compiled 9 childhood experiences that made you who you are today.

You weren't allowed to choose your own clothes: You become codependent

If you had a Type A 'Super parent' who didn't allow you to dress yourself, choose your own playmates or food, you'll end up as a codependent adult.

As you get older, this means that you'll seek out relationships where your partner has all the power and control.

Source: Psychology Today

You had controlling parents: You become a stubborn adult

Stubbornness is a defence mechanism that children adopt in order to escape their controlling parents' will. The children will also likely grow up to inherit this trait.


You were allowed to watch TV as a baby: You have suppressed communication skills

After observing mothers and children in a study, researchers found that TV reduces parent-child communication which is untrue if the child was being read to. Even when there was speaking involved, the parent's comments were typically unrelated to what their children said.

The result is that it created an 'unproductive exchange that could hinder children's opportunity for learning' and hinder their communication skills later on down the road.

Source: Psychology Today

You were allowed to watch violent TV: You become a violent adult

This might seem obvious, but violent films and programs with the most deleterious effects on children aren't always the ones we think are the most violent.

According to a 15-year study, violent scenes that children model their behaviours after are ones where the perpetrators are rewarded for violence. For example, a detective is rewarded by bringing a murderer to justice after a violent clash will result in more pushing, grabbing and shoving from your child -- even after they've grown up.

Source: Developmental Psychology

You played lots of imitation games: You have an ability to accept other cultures

You were spanked: You're a sneaky adult

In the book 'Drive,' author Daniel Pink explains that trying to influence a child's behaviour by offering rewards or punishment does not actually result in the desired behaviour.

Instead, children will only work harder to avoid getting caught the next time.

The conclusion is if you were spanked often as a child, you'll likely resort to misbehaving even more, but you'll learn how to do it without getting caught.

Eventually, you'll become a very sneaky adult.

Source: Psychology Today

You had an intimate relationship with your father: You're able to maintain intimacy now

If you had an emotional connection with your father as a child, you'll be able to enter a healthy, physically intimate relationship with a partner later in life.

The only exception to this is if you were an orphan or a child of divorced parents. In these cases, you'll be able to establish a higher level of intimacy since the father was absent during your childhood in contrast to if he was physically, but not emotionally there.

'The research found a definitive connection between the quality of the father-child relationship and interpersonal relationships later in life,' said lead researcher Dr. Nurit Nahmani.

Source: University of Haifa

You experienced childhood trauma: You suffer from obesity

Several studies have shown a correlation between sexual abuse -- and other traumatic childhood experiences -- and eating disorders.

For women, a 2007 study showed that childhood sexual abuse raised the risk of obesity by 27% compared to women who were never sexually abused.

For men, a 2009 study showed that experiencing sexual abuse as a child raised the risk of obesity by 66% compared to males who never experienced sexual abuse.

Source: Time Magazine

You had substance-abusing parents: You're a super serious adult

If you grew up witnessing your parents abusing drugs or alcohol, you probably ended up being the parent to your parents.

Since you skipped childhood altogether, you become super serious and won't know how to have fun as an adult. You also tend to be overly responsible

Source: Portland Lifestyle Counseling

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