After her divorce, this woman chose to ‘date the world’ and travel

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Peaking at the Louvre in Paris. Courtesy Jolene Jordaan

When Jolene Jordaan got divorced a few years ago, she ventured into the world of online dating. When that proved unsuccessful, she ventured out into the world itself.

“I said, ‘I’ll bet you that if I could just stop online dating for a second, and go out and travel and meet people and open my eyes and experience new things, I could find myself and get to a better place,'” she said.

Jordaan, 38, is no stranger to crossing oceans. Born in Zimbabwe and raised in South Africa, her family moved to Irvine, California, when she was a teenager. She’s still based there, and owns JB Marketing, an advertising agency.

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title=”‘When you’re online dating, you’re being vulnerable and you’re opening yourself up to rejection,’ she said. ‘When you’re travelling, you’re being vulnerable, but you’re opening yourself up to really good things, so you can only come back feeling better.'”
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title=”In pursuit of this redemptive power, Jordaan travelled to Tuscany.”
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title=”‘The moment I landed is when I realised, ‘Wow, I need to figure out how to be courageous,” she said. ‘After you’ve been through a really hard time, sometimes you don’t have that self-esteem.'”
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title=”‘You walk through 100-year-old buildings, and all you can hear are chimes from the church going off, a little bit of chatter from people in the background at a restaurant,’ she said. ‘It’s incredible just to sit there and see everything around you.'”
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title=”After Italy, Jordaan visited England, Germany, France, and Amsterdam.”
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title=”At the Anne Frank House in Amsterdam, Jordaan connected with a featured quote from Frank’s diary: ‘Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.'”
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title=”Sometimes when you’re going through a really hard time, you forget to focus on the good,’ she said. ‘Standing there and reading a quote from somebody who was in such a bad place — if she can think that way, I can think that way.'”
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title=”‘You date how you feel,’ she said, ‘so if you’re feeling bad, you’re not going to date the right people. If you’re feeling good, you’re going to attract (good) people. The more I travelled, the better I felt, and the more better-quality people started coming back into my life.'”
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title=”Next on her itinerary, Jordaan plans to visit more of the United States, stopping in Maryland and Washington, D.C., before returning to South Africa to visit family and friends.”
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title=”She’s already been to New York, where she went ice skating in Central Park and dodged cargo ships while jet skiing on the Hudson, which she described as ‘petrifying and terrifying and amazing all at the same time.'”
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title=”‘Travelling brings back a power, it brings back a love to your life,’ she said. ‘You just leave the past behind. I feel like I’ve unlocked a door to endless adventures and nobody holds the key to that but myself.'”
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