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My husband and I started couples therapy just before the COVID-19 outbreak — here’s why counseling is more important than ever if you’re quarantined with your partner

Melissa Petro is a freelance writer based in New York with her husband and two small children. She started couples counseling with her husband in February, just before the coronavirus began to spread throughout the US. Although they were hesitant at first to switch to virtual meetings, the weekly sessions […]
My husband and I started couples therapy just before the COVID-19 outbreak — here’s why counseling is more important than ever if you’re quarantined with your partner
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NOT A FAIRY TALE: How Americans can survive and thrive after a divorce

Fewer Americans say marriage is important to a fulfilling life, according to a Pew Research study. Marriage is very complex, and it’s easy for couples to fall into unhealthy relationship dynamics. Yet, that’s not stopping more than two million people each year who find themselves at the altar, the Centres […]
NOT A FAIRY TALE: How Americans can survive and thrive after a divorce
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A Kansas city man recently offered $25,000 to anyone who can find him a girlfriend. Here are 4 reasons why that’s not how successful relationships actually work, according to a psychotherapist.

Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker, mental strength coach, and international bestselling author of “13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do.” In the internet age, you can shop for almost anything online: groceries, vacations, cars, and even romantic relationships. While enlisting someone else to find your perfect […]
A Kansas city man recently offered $25,000 to anyone who can find him a girlfriend. Here are 4 reasons why that’s not how successful relationships actually work, according to a psychotherapist.
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I’m a former professional matchmaker who found love while travelling solo — here’s why it prepared me for a strong long-term relationship

Olivia Balsinger is a writer, traveller, and former professional matchmaker. She spent years solo travelling around the world, and it taught her a lot about how to be in a relationship. Travelling tested Balsinger’s sense of adventure, bravery, self-confidence, and, most significantly, self-love – attributes that are all extremely important […]
I’m a former professional matchmaker who found love while travelling solo — here’s why it prepared me for a strong long-term relationship
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Queer people aren’t always read as couples in public. Here’s what to do when someone assumes you’re with a friend — and why those assumptions can be harmful.

Many queer couples have found themselves not read as couples in social settings. Adam Blum, the founder and director of the Gay Therapy Centre, says moments like these are invalidating – and can make you feel lesser than. When these moments occur, you should take a moment for yourself, acknowledge […]
Queer people aren’t always read as couples in public. Here’s what to do when someone assumes you’re with a friend — and why those assumptions can be harmful.
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How to stay emotionally strong when you’re alone on Valentine’s Day

Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker, mental strength coach, and international bestselling author. Valentine’s Day – the most romantic day of the year – when stores are overflowing with heart-shaped chocolates and bright pink teddy bears, can make single people feel even more lonely than usual. But […]
How to stay emotionally strong when you’re alone on Valentine’s Day
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13 things mentally strong couples don’t do, according to a psychotherapist

Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker, and bestselling author. She says the absence of unhealthy habits is important to allow romantic relationships to thrive. These behaviours include manipulation, holding a grudge, and minimising one another’s feelings. Visit the Business section of Insider for more stories. Mentally strong […]
13 things mentally strong couples don’t do, according to a psychotherapist
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The simplest yet most effective ways to prevent workplace stress from damaging your relationship, according to a psychotherapist

Amy Morin is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker, mental strength coach, and international bestselling author. High-stress careers can often be a cause of tension in personal relationships. After an exhausting day at the office, you may be short-tempered or irritable, and unintentionally bring those feelings home. To combat this, […]
The simplest yet most effective ways to prevent workplace stress from damaging your relationship, according to a psychotherapist
Lifestyle

20 positive changes to make in your marriage, according to experts

In the United States, roughly 38% of marriages will end in divorce. Insider spoke to experts and consulted research to determine changes people can make to improve their marriages and create happier and healthier relationships. Asking for feedback is a great way to open up a dialogue with your spouse […]
20 positive changes to make in your marriage, according to experts
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A therapist reveals the 5 biggest relationship issues in Silicon Valley

Silicon Valley is home to many tech companies including Facebook and Google. Gal Szekely, a therapist who left the tech world, now practices couples counseling in San Francisco and Palo Alto. He shared 5 problems that are particularly common in Silicon Valley. Visit Business Insider’s homepage for more stories. Gal […]
A therapist reveals the 5 biggest relationship issues in Silicon Valley
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8 reasons couples should combine finances, according to experts

Research shows that combining finances with a partner can lead to a happier relationship, but more and more young couples are opting to keep things separate. It might be worth pooling your money, though, since shared finances may help you build a stronger sense of togetherness and (bonus) help you […]
8 reasons couples should combine finances, according to experts
Lifestyle

THEN AND NOW: 12 high school sweethearts compare prom and wedding photos and share their secrets to making a relationship last

High school sweethearts shared their prom-to-wedding transformations with Insider. We asked for their secrets to making a relationship last. Many couples cited their strong initial friendships and the importance of honest communication. Visit Insider’s homepage for more stories. High school sweethearts don’t always stay together forever. But some couples stick […]
THEN AND NOW: 12 high school sweethearts compare prom and wedding photos and share their secrets to making a relationship last
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What to do if you find a coworker on a dating app

If you use dating apps, it’s almost inevitable that you’ll come across the profile of one of your coworkers. That can create an awkward situation, regardless of how well you know the coworker. We asked dating and relationship experts what to do if you find a coworker on a dating […]
What to do if you find a coworker on a dating app
Lifestyle

5 science-backed secrets to a successful marriage

Studies have shown that the happiest couples have sex once a week. How couples start tough conversations can determine the success of their relationships. Enthusiastically supporting each other is key to a happy marriage. Couples who share the same drinking habits are more satisfied in their relationships. Visit BusinessInsider.com for […]
5 science-backed secrets to a successful marriage
Lifestyle

8 signs you’re holding a grudge even if you don’t think you are

Holding a grudge likely doesn’t make you feel any better about what transpired, but sometimes it just happens. And you may be holding a grudge even if you don’t think that you are. Feeling bitter, ignoring that person, getting angry about unrelated things, and thinking about them negatively are all […]
8 signs you’re holding a grudge even if you don’t think you are
Lifestyle

4 signs your breakup might not be permanent

Not every breakup is permanent but that doesn’t mean every couple should or will get back together. Taking a break from a relationship can sometimes be the best way to build a stronger union in the future. There are certain signs that indicate whether or not a breakup is temporary, […]
4 signs your breakup might not be permanent
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9 things to say when breaking up with someone

Breaking up with someone can be really difficult, but it’s often a necessary part of life. You likely don’t want to cause the other person any more pain or heartache than necessary, but it can be difficult to determine what, exactly, you should say. There are some things that you […]
9 things to say when breaking up with someone
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7 signs you’re in a parasitic relationship with your partner

Sometimes it can be difficult to tell if your relationship is parasitic while you’re still in it. INSIDER spoke with a relationship expert to find out what signs may mean you’re in a parasitic relationship. If your partner always needs something from you, tries to enmesh you in their life […]
7 signs you’re in a parasitic relationship with your partner
Lifestyle

8 things to do when you and your friend fall for the same person

It can be awkward and stressful when you and your friend are crushing on the same person. INSIDER consulted a relationship expert for some tips on how to manoeuvre you and your friend liking the same person. In this situation, it’s important to be self-aware, communicative, and open with your […]
8 things to do when you and your friend fall for the same person
Lifestyle

9 ways to strengthen your relationship in the new year

Whether or not your relationship is struggling, almost everyone can benefit from a few relationship tips for a strong start in the new year. INSIDER spoke to a relationship expert and discovered that bettering yourself on an individual level can actually have positive effects on your relationship. Focusing on your […]
9 ways to strengthen your relationship in the new year
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9 reasons why someone might be afraid of commitment

Relationship expert April Masini attributes peer pressure and fear of failure as a couple of the reasons that people are afraid of commitment. Pew Research found that 42% of Americans didn’t have a significant other in 2017. Poor relationships with friends and family, as well as bad past relationships, can […]
9 reasons why someone might be afraid of commitment
Lifestyle

5 ways to be less codependent in your relationship

Codependency is an “excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner,” according to clinical psychologist Dr. Jennifer Rhodes. Sometimes it can be difficult to detect codependent behaviours in a relationship. If you suspect that you’re codependent or in a codependent relationship, you might want to make some changes in order […]
5 ways to be less codependent in your relationship
Lifestyle

8 subtle signs your ex is trying to get you back

Breakups can be confusing, especially if your ex may be trying to get back to the way things were. INSIDER consulted two relationship experts to find out which signs you should look out for to see if your ex is trying to get you back. If they still interact with […]
8 subtle signs your ex is trying to get you back
Lifestyle

10 signs your partner is codependent

Codependency is when one partner feels an excessive emotional reliance on their partner. Textbook signs of codependent personalities are people-pleasing, low self-esteem, and always needing to be in control. According to codependency expert, Darlene Lancer, codependency is a disorder of the self. Clinical psychologist Dr. Jennifer Rhodes said the key […]
10 signs your partner is codependent
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A business school professor who studied 20,000 startup founders says ‘going ugly’ can be the key to a successful partnership — or marriage

Most of us try to avoid tough conversations, but the most successful people tackle awkward subjects head on. A professor who studied 20,000 startup founders said “going ugly” and addressing uncomfortable issues can help you both in the business world and in romantic relationships. From planning for the departure of […]
A business school professor who studied 20,000 startup founders says ‘going ugly’ can be the key to a successful partnership — or marriage
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10 signs your partner is emotionally unavailable

Emotional availability is something that can help you and your partner connect in a real, authentic way, so if that’s something that you value in your relationship, knowing how to spot the signs that your partner might not actually be emotionally available is important. Not everyone who’s emotionally unavailable will […]
10 signs your partner is emotionally unavailable
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10 signs your long-distance relationship will last

Healthy long-distance relationships are possible thanks to the seemingly infinite methods of communicating with loved ones (messaging, calling, Snapchatting, tweeting, tagging). Consistent communication is a major factor in maintaining a solid bond with a partner, whether they are in another city, state, or country. However, there are many elements that […]
10 signs your long-distance relationship will last
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7 subtle signs your relationship is basically over

Relationships can be difficult and although having some issues is normal, there are some red flags to look out for that could mean the end of your relationship. If you no longer laugh with your partner and don’t prioritise them, the relationship might be doomed. Here’s how to know your […]
7 subtle signs your relationship is basically over
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Why saying no to a second date could be sabotaging your love life

More young people than ever before are now single, and while for some this is a choice, others are struggling to find love. Dating apps are often blamed for the rise of “hook-up culture” and thus the decline of commitment, but this may not be the case. According to The […]
Why saying no to a second date could be sabotaging your love life
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10 ways your jealousy might be sabotaging your own happiness

Jealousy, otherwise known as that irritating green-eyed monster, is a complex human emotion. Unlike happiness and anger – emotions you can easily attribute to a rhyme or reason – jealousy is a “gut reaction in your emotional/evaluative system” that can fester long before you even realise it’s there, according to […]
10 ways your jealousy might be sabotaging your own happiness
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9 signs you’re being too controlling in your relationship

Controlling behaviour can be incredibly detrimental to a relationship. And it’s not always easy to know you’re being too controlling until it’s already damaged your relationship. That being said, there probably were a number of signs that showed that you’re being too controlling, even if you missed them. If you […]
9 signs you’re being too controlling in your relationship
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9 ways to support a partner who is working on their sobriety

When someone you love is working on their sobriety, it can be difficult to figure out the best way to support your partner while still maintaining a healthy relationship with them in a way that helps them on their journey. Here are some ways you can help to support your […]
9 ways to support a partner who is working on their sobriety
Lifestyle

10 subtle signs your crush just wants to be friends

When you’re attracted to someone, it can be upsetting to learn they only think of you as a friend. From their body language to the questions they ask, there are certain signs your crush doesn’t share your feelings. Here are a few subtle signs that your crush considers you a […]
10 subtle signs your crush just wants to be friends
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10 tips for dealing with passive-aggressive people

The American Psychological Association defines passive-aggressive personality disorder “a personality disorder of long standing in which ambivalence toward the self and others is expressed by such means as procrastination, dawdling, stubbornness, intentional inefficiency, ‘forgetting’ appointments, or misplacing important materials.” This can apply to your friend who wore white to your […]
10 tips for dealing with passive-aggressive people
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10 ways to get out of a sexual dry spell in a relationship

No matter how much we love our partners, no couple is immune to falling into a sexual rut. In fact, research says that we’re all having less sex than most people think. But sex can still be an important part of human life, and multiple studies have shown that sex […]
10 ways to get out of a sexual dry spell in a relationship