- A makeup artist has shared how a bride changed her mind about hiring her when she found out she’s a lesbian.
- Kristian Cardenas posted screengrabs of the text exchange with the bride on Facebook, and her post has since received hundreds of comments.
- “I’m sorry that you’ve chosen a path that’s going to send you straight to hell,” the woman said. “I think you do beautiful makeup but I just can’t have someone who’s gay being a part of my special day.”
- Cardenas told INSIDER the incident left her feeling “extremely hurt.”
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A makeup artist has shared how a bride-to-be refused to hire her because she’s a lesbian.
Texas-based beautician Kristian Cardenas posted screengrabs of the text exchange she had with the anonymous bride on Facebook, and she told INSIDER she was “extremely hurt” by what happened.
The messages show the bride getting in touch to ask about pricing for her wedding day, and Cardenas, 22, duly responded with all the necessary information.
So far, so normal.
But then the bride said she had “a few questions” to ask – namely about Cardenas’ sexual orientation.
“Are you gay?” the woman asked.
“Yes ma’am I am,” Cardenas responded. “I’m sorry, but what does that have to do with your wedding or my services?”
The bride replied: “Oh I don’t want a gay person doing my wedding. I saw your FB and I couldn’t tell if you we’re or weren’t gay [sic].”
Cardenas responded incredibly politely: “OK that’s totally fine, you have a nice day.”
The bride could have left it there, but she didn’t.
“I still have more questions,” she continued. “How can you be a Latina woman and be gay? You do know being gay is a sin, correct?
“I will pray for you, my friend. I’m sorry that you’ve chosen a path that’s going to send you straight to hell. I think you do beautiful makeup but I just can’t have someone who’s gay being a part of my special day.
“The wedding is in a church and I don’t want you walking into my church.”
She added: “If you at any chance change your mind about being gay let me know please so I can book you.”
Cardenas told INSIDER she blocked the woman, but decided to take screengrabs of the exchange and share them online.
“Today I was taken back a little bit, and I doubted if I wanted to continue doing hair and makeup if this is the response I am going to get for being who I am,” she wrote in a Facebook post.
“Homophobia is real, and with it being pride month I feel like the comments get worse. I’m sharing this today to say, please be kind to everyone. If someone doesn’t have the same views as you, opinions, or whatever it may be, just respect them. Don’t hate them for being different.”
Her post has received a huge amount of attention, garnering Cardenas a barrage of support.
Cardenas said “never in a million years” did she imagine her post would receive such a huge reaction.
“I thought I was just sharing this with my friends and family,” she said. “My girlfriend is from a different state and wanted her friends and family to see what had happen so she asked me to make it public.”
Many people were impressed by how politely Cardenas responded to the bride, but she thinks she was too shocked to say anything else.
“I was extremely hurt,” Cardenas told INSIDER. “I struggle with religion myself, so hearing from someone ‘I’m not welcome in their church’ hurt me in more ways than I thought.”
She added: “I honestly was shocked and just said ‘have a nice day.’ I didn’t even think twice about it. Then after she continued to tell me stuff I blocked her because I didn’t want to be rude.”
This isn’t the first time the young makeup artist has faced homophobic abuse, but she says it’s harder to brush off when the comments are written down.
“I’ve had in-person encounters when I’m at the bars or with my significant others,” she said. “Those are easier to brush off because I just smile and walk away.”
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