• We scoured Reddit for the best words of wisdom.
• Most of the advice teaches us to be kind to others and ourselves.
There’s nothing more motivating than good advice. Hearing the right words at the right time can change your perspective, address a problem you haven’t been able to articulate, or just remind you what’s really important.
We scoured Reddit threads for people who’ve heard life-changing advice that changed the way they see the world. Here’s what we learned.
'Kicking yourself over past failures won't change what happened, it will just leave you sore from being kicked so much. Give up all hope for a better past. Own who you have been so it doesn't own you.
'This really applies to all ages, but it's a skill that takes a while to develop so you might as well start young and really figure it out. I haven't met many people under 20 who have taken it to heart, but I have found a number of people in their 20s who are really starting to get it. I've also met people in their 80s and 90s who still don't get it and are filled with regrets.' - techniforus
'Do your own thing, never plan any events around other people. If you want to learn music, start hitting the gym, go travelling, do it all yourself. If someone wants to tag along, let them, but dont count on them.' - willdill
'I've found this absolutely true about travel. I would never have gotten to half the places I've been if I'd been afraid to travel solo. Plus, you can make friends doing all these things, who you know are interested in those things.' - seanomenon
'My favourites: 'If you admit you've made a mistake right away, people soon forget you made one' and 'When receiving praise or criticism, look the person right in the eye.'' - price101
'The admitting a mistake (piece of advice) is completely true. If someone just says, 'Well I guess I was wrong,' the issue is dropped immediately. The longer you protest, the more people want to prove that you're wrong.' - saintdaniel
''You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.'
'(This) really hit home for me since I grew up trying to mediate my parents' issues and had multiple friends in and out of the ER for mental health crises during my teen years, among other things. As someone who spent the majority of her life feeling like she had to take care of others at all costs, it was kinda a shock to the system to hear that I was allowed to have my limits even with people who truly needed help.' - merest
'My mother asked my father to fix the stove. He got some tools and made a ridiculous mess and obviously wasn't making any progress. My mother got exasperated and said, 'You're useless! Never mind, I'll call the repair man.'
'After my mum left, my dad looked at me and said, 'Son, let that be a lesson for you. If you don't want to do something, don't be good at it.' I was about 10 years old.
'My dad's best, but only, life advice for me.' - pivo
'My mum was dying. A friend told me, 'You have your whole life to freak out about this -- don't do it in front of her.'
'It really helped me to understand that my feelings are not always what's important. It is possible to delay a freakout, and that skill has served me innumerable times.' - DiffidentDissident
'We judge others by their actions and ourselves on our intentions. Really made me think about people and I try telling myself that when the idiot in front of me doesn't indicate when merging.' - Rex--Banner
'Not sure who said this to me, but I heard this in my late teens and it completely changed the way I think forever: 'If you think you know something, find someone who disagrees and listen to them.'
'It has taken years for that to fully sink in, but it's a never-ending process. The last part, the part about actually listening, is the tricky part, and it took me many years to get it right.
'But it's the best advice I've ever heard, and it changed my life more than any other single piece of advice. I also think it's the advice that most people on reddit need in their lives.' - apopheniac1989
''Don't stress. If it's something you can fix, then fix it. No need to stress. If there is nothing you can do about it, then whats the point in stressing over it? Now stop being a fuck up and fix it.' My brother and his amazing advice.' - lifeadvicethrowaway
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