Fighting to achieve your goals is a raw and gritty sport.It’s a fight-to-the-death that leaves many bloodied, hurt, and wondering why they even attempted grand ambitions in the first place.
So it’s only natural that at some point you think about giving up. About doing just about anything other than what has suddenly become so painful.
You start quitting on the inside.
That’s where quitting starts. Think about it. When was the last time you “threw in the towel” and marched out the front door? Probably only once or twice ever.
Why? That’s just not how we are wired. We’ve been taught that quitting is for loser — that successful people don’t give up. And since we all want to look like winners, we work hard at making sure we don’t appear to ever give up.
So we try to make everyone else quit.
Oh. It never seems to start out that blatant. And, frankly, whatever we do has some semblance of justifiability. After all, we are supposed to all be on the same side.
But you know when you have started quitting by how your behaviour starts to become dangerously negative.
- You stop giving other people the benefit of the doubt.
- You are overly sceptical (down right cynical) about other people’s intentions.
- You assume the worst about people and circumstances.
- You find it hard to agree with others even when you know they’re right.
- You use passive aggressive words instead of confronting challenges head on.
- You label leaders who hold you accountable as being unreasonable.
- You ignore the truth about a situation and always make yourself the victim.
- You are quick to point out the flaws in those around you.
- You project your own misery and confusion on the activities of others.
These are the things we do when we’re afraid to admit we’ve given up.
That truth is that we are all flawed.
Let’s get that straight. Being successful isn’t easy for anyone. Just because it looks like doing something amazing comes naturally doesn’t mean that that is how it actually happens. Anyone doing anything amazing has it just as rough as you do.
Life is just as unfair to all of us.
Sadly, giving up isn’t about what you do when everyone’s looking at you, it’s about the attitude you have when you’re faced with overwhelmingly unfair obstacles. You can make excuses for your own inadequacies or you can take responsibility for achieving greatness.
It’s likely that when things got especially rough for you, you might have forgotten an important fact.
You don’t need to give up.
You don’t need to stop shuffling towards your goal. No one can stop you if you won’t quit. So try again. Show up. Maybe today is the day that you start winning again.
Winning big time.
This post originally appeared at Edgy Conversations.
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